Random Conversation Starters for Couples

Going to a nice dinner and need a conversation topic? Want to liven up your date night in with a deep conversation?  Use our random conversation topic generator below to spark great conversation ideas! To get started, just click “Generate Conversation Topic.”

Click "Generate Random Topics" button above to generate a random topic.

Some Tips to Having Better Conversations as a Couple

Regardless of whether you’ve been married for 30 years or just recently started dating, finding new conversation topics can be challenging. Once you’ve gotten to know someone very well it can be tough to come up with new things to talk about. Follow these tips to have better conversations as a couple.

1. Focus on the other person and the topic being discussed

In other words, avoid multitasking and thinking about other things while your partner is speaking. Focus on the conversation. This will make sure that you can reply to your partner in a meaningful way and can interalize what your partner is saying.

2. Avoid getting on a soapbox or dominating the conversation

A conversation is a two-way street and you should allow a dialogue to happen between the two of you. Your partner should also do the same. Neither of you wants to listen to the other ramble and not have a chance to speak.

3. Don’t ask close-ended questions that can be answered with a yes or no

The best conversations delve into deep topics that can’t be answered with a simple yes or no. If you ask a close-ended question, the conversation will be short. This is useful for simple chores like “Did you take out the garbage?” but shouldn’t be used for in-depth date night conversations.

4. Don’t sound like you’re competing with their experiences

Ideally your partner will be with you for a long time if not life so you should be truly “partners” and friends with shared goals. You shouldn’t be competing against each other. If your partner mentions something exciting or sad, make sure you sound understand and don’t just blurt out news about something similar that happened to you.

5. Avoid repeating yourself

Anyone has a tendency to repeat what she or he has already said when conversing with someone or a group of people. You should avoid doing so because it makes the conversation boring and uninteresting. The conversation just keeps going in circles without any progress if you keep repeating yourself.

6. Be a good listener

To establish a good conversation, you need to be a good listener first. Most people would rather talk than listen which doesn’t create a great dialogue. When you want to enjoy a fun conversation, you need to listen to what your group is discussing. Listen well so you have a deeper understanding of the discussion and your replies make sense in the context of the conversation.

Great Conversation Starters

What is something you can tell me about yourself that will help me remember you over others?

Some believe that our identity is directly correlated to our career. What is your thought?

What is the most difficult thing for you about living in this city?

If money wasn’t a necessity, what career would you choose for yourself?

How do you separate what joy is from happiness?

What do you find is the best remedy to go to sleep on nights when you are restless?

What are the main differences between baby boomers and millennials?

What was your favorite era of music and what was played then?

What type of movies do you like to watch and what are your favorites?

What’s your favorite restaurant and why?

What’s your favorite thing to do with your free time?

Name three words that best describe you.

Funny Conversation Starters

What’s the best Wi-Fi network name you have ever seen?

What candy bar would you be?

If you could hack any computer, whose computer would you pick?

If you could have dinner with anybody, who would you pick for a date?

Would you prefer to never get stuck in traffic again, or to never get another cold in your entire life?

If you had to pick a Disney character to represent you, which one would you pick?

What would you do with your extra time if you didnt need to sleep anymore?

What was the best reason why you ever faked being sick?

What is the weirdest gift you have ever gotten in your life?

If you had to work in a circus, what would you be working as?

Who would you prefer to be able to read your thoughts, your parents or your crush?

If you had to give either caffeine or alcohol for the rest of your life, which would you pick?

Deep Conversation Topics

What are your fears? Fear is one of the primal emotions of humans and knowing the answer to this will give you an insight into the person.

What is your general plan in life? Reflecting on your plan in life is one of the best deep conversation topics.

What is the lowest point of your life? The lowest point always defines the person.

What are the things that you regret? Knowing what the person used to be that they don’t want to be anymore is an effective way to get to know each other.

If you could tell something to your 10-year-old self, what would it be? Know what they value now that they didn’t before.

The thing you hate the most? There are many things that can be revealed by this question.

What do you do over and over again that you hate doing? You’ll have an insight into their routine.

What will you never give up on? You will know what is important to their lives.

How would you describe the color of the sky to a blind person? There are a lot of insightful things that can be said when asked this hypothetical question.

What is your next big step? Other people are stuck in a routine but asking them their next big step can help in reflecting.

Conversation Starters For Couples